Although I haven’t been posting much these days about Human Design, my research continues. My focus has been on relationships between the profile types lately. After looking into the profile types of the people closest to me, I had questions:

Are there certain profile types that I get along better with? Why?

Which profile types are best suited as romantic partners for my type?

I had a good idea which profile types I got along with based upon what I’d experienced. My hypothesis was that I get along best with any person whose profile contains a 2nd line or a 6th line – or both. Why? Well, at least half of my family are 2nd lines and so I have a lifetime of personal experience with other 2nd lines.

Examples: My mother is a Manifesting Generator, 2/4, Hermit-Opportunist. Of me and my two sisters, my mom and I have always had a special connection. We just “click”. My older sister, a 1/4 Generator, and my younger sister, a 1/3 Generator, have always had a slight disconnect with her compared to me. Similarly, my relationships with my sisters has always been strained. My older sister tried to get me to be more social and was/is highly judgmental of me. My younger sister hasn’t spoken to me in 12 years (her choice, not mine) and cut ties with all family almost completely.

My other hypothesis is that I get along least with those whose profiles contain a 1. Again, this is based upon my personal experiences and the information I have gathered thus far.

Examples: As I mentioned above, both my sisters are conscious 1st lines. You can never tell a 1st line how things are. They won’t take your word for it and my experiences, as a Projector, were not good when I tried to give them “advice” without them inviting me. BTW, they RARELY invited me. No surprise there because they already know everything (sarcasm). Similarly, I recently met another 1st line, this one subconscious, and the amount of research and digging this person did all.the.time was a bit too much. As a 6/2, I don’t need to research, I have a strong inner Knowing and rarely do much, if any, research into things. I learn through my intuition and experiences. And, well, Hermits, we just Know. The last thing I want to do is discuss all the details and info the 1st line dug up. It just hurts, like physically, to endure that kind of torture. lol And too often, what ends up happening with me and any 1st line, conscious or unconscious, is an inability to really connect. I usually just back off and give them the time and space they need to figure things out for themselves but I am not likely to hang around to hear their great epiphanies in the end because I am thinking, “duh”. LOL Since my daughter is a 1/3 I get LOTS of practice dealing with such things. Thankfully, she has always recognized me as someone who Knows and uses me as a part of her extensive library of information. Smart girl!

Turns out, my findings indicate that my Knowing about the profiles I get along with is spot-on (no surprise). Here is a list of all the profiles and their best matches, romantically and otherwise (I bolded my profile type):

1/3: Ideal match is with 1/3 and 4/6. Also compatible with 3/5, 3/6, 5/1, and 6/3.

1/4: Ideal match is with 1/4. Also compatible with 2/4, 4/1, and 4/6.

2/4: Ideal match is with 2/4 and 5/1. Also compatible with 2/5, 4/6, 5/2, and 6/2.

2/5: Ideal match is with 2/5. Also compatible with 5/2, 2/4, and 5/1.

3/5: Ideal match is with 3/5 and 6/2. Also compatible with 3/6, 5/1, 5/2, and 6/3.

3/6: Ideal match is with 3/6 and 6/3. Also compatible with 1/3 and 3/5.

4/6: Ideal match is with 4/6 and 1/3. Also compatible with 1/4, 2/4, 4/1, and 6/2.

4/1: Ideal match is with 4/1 and 1/4. Also compatible with 4/6.

5/1: Ideal match is with 5/1 and 2/4. Also compatible with 1/3, 2/5, and 3/5.

5/2: Ideal match is with 5/2 and 2/5. Also compatible with 2/4 and 3/5.

6/2: Ideal match is with 6/2 and 3/5. Also compatible with 2/4, 4/6, and 6/3.

6/3: Ideal match is with 6/3 and 3/6. Also compatible with 1/3, and 3/5, and 6/2.

My Connections

Prior to finding this information, I had a long list of the people in my lives and their profile and energy types. Here is the list. Make sure to compare it to my compatible profiles so you get an idea of who I got or get along with in my life.

Mom – Emotional MG, 2/4
Dad – MG, 1/3**
Step-Dad – MG, 5/1
Sister – G, 1/4
Sister – G, 1/3
Brother – Emotional G, 2/4
Daughter – Emotional MG, 1/3
Son – G, 2/4
Son – Emotional G, 2/4
Husband – MG, 5/3*
Ex-Husband – MG, 6/2*
BIL – Emotional Manifestor, 4/6**
SIL – Emotional Projector, 3/5**
Nephew – Emotional G, 4/6**
Nephew – Emotional G, 2/4**
Niece – Emotional G, 1/3**
Nephew – G, 1/3**
SIL – Emotional MG, 4/1**
SIL – Emotional Manifestor, 6/3**
BIL – G, 2/4**
Nephew – Emotional Projector, 1/3**
Niece – G, 5/1**
Cousin – G, 2/4
Cousin – Emotional MG, 6/2**
Friend – Splenic Projector, 6/3
Friend’s husband – MG, 1/3
Child 1 – Projector, 1/3
Child 2 – G, 2/4
Friend – Emotional Projector, 2/4
Friend/connection – Emotional MG, 5/1
Friend/connection #2 – G, 3/5
Ex-Boyfriend – G, 5/1**
Coworker/Friend – Projector, 3/5**

MG = Manifesting Generator
G = Generator
* = Recent discovery, did not know profile type until just two weeks ago
** = Later discovery

In my adulthood, my best friends, and friends in general, tend to be other Projectors. I assume in my early years that my best friend was a generating type but I can’t be sure. My best guess is she was a 3/5. She most definitely was not a hermit! She might have been a 4/6, but I’ve never met one (that I know of) in order to compare their energy. Edit: I did a chart using the data I have for her and she is either a 3/5 Projector or a 3/5 Generator. Based upon my track record with friends and how she was in school and is currently, I’m betting on Projector. But I was right about the 3/5!!

It is also typical for me to attract MG’s in the romantic sense, which I hear is common for Projectors. The energy dynamics between a Projector and MG is quite intense. Imagine the MG energy, which is the highest generative energy out there and them meeting a Projector who takes that already intense energy and amplifies it. You get a crazy intense amount of energy! Sadly, in my experience, that intensity typically dies out over time, as was/is proved by my two marriages to MG’s. Why? Because Projectors are not meant to be generators and we end up burning out and eventually want to get away from the MG’s over abundance of energy. We just can’t tolerate it long-term. We aren’t built for that.

The significant other MG’s in my life never understood my need for rest and solitude and would continue to pursue me beyond my capable limits. My ex-husband thought I didn’t love him and was constantly pressuring me to give more than I had to give. However, as a fellow 6/2, he understood the need for solitude, maybe even more than I did. He was happiest in nature, far away from people, and ended up isolating me way more than I could handle. He was very easy-going, generally optimistic, and a lover of life. My current husband, though well-meaning, comes across as overly needy of my attention. Of course, we have three generating-types as children, so everyone I am around daily feels to be taking my energy. I have little, if anything, left for my husband by day’s end. I often feel trapped in my own house because I can’t get far enough away to recover from all the energy my aura is processing all.the.time.

As a Projector, it is said by the creator of HD, that we become “super slaves” to the other types in our lives, especially generating types. It is our nature to need the other types in order to generate or manifest. We just can’t do it without them. So, we end up trapped in a cycle, give and take, revved up and then sucked dry to the point of exhaustion. Not only are we somewhat addicted to energy we receive from generators, but they are, too, and as generators, whose authority says wait to respond, when they get that opportunity to respond to our energy, well, they do. And do, and do, and….LOL

A surprise to me about my profile matches is that I get along well with someone who has a 3rd line. It soon became apparent, though, why that is. All 6th lines go through three phases of experiencing. The first phase, up until around the first Saturn Return, they experience life as a 3rd line, only without the tough outer skin other, real 3rd lines have. We experiment like 3rd lines, have stuff happen to us that is not very pleasant, and end up beaten and bruised emotionally in the end. 3rd lines learn through experimentation. If at first they don’t succeed, well, they do it again a different way! We 6th lines gain valuable experience from our early years, though. Because of this common experience, we get along with 3rd lines. We can relate well to them, and they to us.

Like the above list indicates, my favorite matches have been those with profiles on my list. Based upon love interest, I will have to say my favorite is the 3/5 profile type. Though I enjoyed the fun-loving ways of my 6/2 ex-husband, I have to say that other 6/2’s just don’t attract me like the 3/5. I think it is the mysterious and magnetic 5 that draws me in. They are quite alluring and well, that mysterious component, it keeps me guessing. I love a good mystery and am happiest with someone who can keep me on my toes. My 6/2 ex struggled to do that for me. I think we were just too similar and both needed the other to keep things interesting, but we couldn’t. We were also in that first phase of the 6th line, so technically the relationship was doomed before it started. My current husband is very, very good at keeping things….interesting, even though sometimes in a very negative way.

I believe the 5th line will always draw me in. I find them fascinating and beautiful. There is an attraction I can’t explain. In my experience, my tendency is to fully submit to them, give my all, and the crazy part is I have no clue why! The founder of HD says that the 2nd line to be “called out” in a specific way. The Other who is calling out the 2nd line has to find that weak spot, a vulnerability that even the 2nd line doesn’t know exists. It is that spot, that when touched upon, lights up the 2 and causes them to venture out of their happy, safe place. Otherwise, we just stay in our happy place and ignore the call. And for me, it has been true with all the 5th lines I have been with. They are magical.

Then there is the 1st line as I mentioned previously. I can get along with them, but the relationship is often strained. I grew up with two and have a daughter who is one, so I know! But then, consider the 5/1 and how confusing they appear to me. First, they are magical, mysterious and alluring (5th line) but at the same time frustrate me with their constant, analytical and investigative aspect. Ha! It could be a love-hate relationship, that’s for sure! So far, though, I can’t say I’ve been lucky (or cursed) enough to have had a romantic relationship with one. Maybe? If only I knew all the profile types of my past relationships! Edit: Since writing this post I determined an ex-boyfriend was a 5/1 Generator. I broke it off with him because he confessed to cheating on me. I never figured out why but he later tracked me down to try and re-connect. I was married so he made sure to put me down for becoming “one of them” (married people with kids).

Charts to Compare

Below are the charts of my ex-husband, current husband and me. The similarities are striking! Not only do they have mostly open centers, but many of the same channels! When combined with my chart, there would be similar dynamics at play.

Ex-Husband – Aries, born 4/4/1975

TYPE: Manifesting Generator
STRATEGY: To Respond
NOT-SELF THEME: Frustration
INNER AUTHORITY: Sacral
PROFILE: 6 / 2
DEFINITION: Single Definition
INCARNATION CROSS: Left Angle Cross of Endeavor (21/48 | 54/53)

Current husband – Gemini, born 5/23/76

TYPE: Manifesting Generator
STRATEGY: To Respond
NOT-SELF THEME: Frustration
INNER AUTHORITY: Sacral
PROFILE: 3 / 5
DEFINITION: Single Definition
INCARNATION CROSS: Right Angle Cross of The Sleeping Phoenix (20/34 | 55/59)

My chart – Leo, 8/4/76

• TYPE: Projector
• STRATEGY: Wait for the Invitation
• NOT-SELF THEME: Bitterness
• INNER AUTHORITY: Self Projected
• PROFILE: 6 / 2
• DEFINITION: Single Definition
• INCARNATION CROSS: Left Angle Cross of Refinement (33/19 | 2/1)

When I saw how similar my husband and ex-husband’s charts are, I knew it was not coincidence. It always felt to me like I was continuing a lesson unfinished when I married my current husband. Similar issues arose in our marriage that had existed in my previous one. Both have only one more defined center than I do. Both share at least one defined center with me. My ex shares a defined throat, and my current husband shares a defined throat and G-center. So, technically, the only conditioning I would have with them would come from the defined centers they have.

There is something about the energy of someone who has mostly undefined centers that I think attracts me. They are more fluid and changeable than someone with mostly defined centers. I struggle more with someone who is extremely fixed in their ways (mostly defined). It isn’t that I don’t get along with them, but that I find their set ways difficult to navigate. I end up being the one to give in and change because I am so changeable. My mom is this way. She only has two open centers. I use to get so frustrated with her because she so stuck/set in her ways. A creature of habit, that is for sure! It is so hard to get her to do something new and outside of her normal routine. Similarly, another person I know (online) is the same. She is unable to see past her fixed tendencies and change. You can get out your crowbar but she still won’t budge.

I just prefer mutable people, I guess. Nothing against the fixed, so please don’t take offense. I have my fixations, too, (my not-self) so I get you.